Just Because I'm Fat

4.21.2017

If you're a regular reader of my blog, you'll know that despite being plus size, I really hate the word 'fat'. I never use it unless it's followed by an awkward laugh, but today, I'm blasting all of those 'fat' stereotypes I keep seeing in this post: Just Because I'm Fat.


Just Because I'm Fat, Doesn't Mean:

  • I'm lazy. I'm not, I work more hours than most people, I exercise and am rarely 'dozing' on the chair.
  • I'm unfashionable or unattractive. My photo above is of me rocking an Asos Curve leather jacket. I'm a fashion blogger and products I feature regularly sell out. Not so unfashionable or ugly afterall, huh?
  • I'm always eating junk food. I don't. I'm a pescetarian who eats 'junk food' once a week which is less than many thin people.
  • I'm Jolly. In general, 'fat' people are stereotyped as being jolly, when in fact, we're just as likely to be as happy or sad as thinner people are.
  • I want to loose weight. Sometimes I have bad days where I hate my body, but other days, I take pictures of myself wearing something I'd never normally wear and I love my curves. I'm a woman, we all have good and bad 'body confidence' days.
  • I have poor hygeine. This for me is probably the most bizarre stereotypes out there of fat fat people. Just because I'm fat doesn't mean I don't shower or brush my teeth. In fact, anyone who knows me knows I'm obsessively clean and can't stand feeling dirty.
  • I'm unhealthy. I eat healthily, I exercise, I work, I do all of the same things thinner people do.
  • I don't attract men. I have three gorgeous slim sisters and it's fair to say I attract equally as many men as they do. 
  • I deserve to be made fun of. I get 'fat' comments quite often in my job as an 'influencer' but in 'real life' I get them once in a while too. Mainly from other women which is even worse than it being from a man. Us girls should all be sticking together instead of tearing each other down.
  • I can't dance. Someone said to me once, 'What do you do when your sisters are hitting the dancefloor?' Eh, I join them?
  • I deserve to hear 'joke remarks' about how 'those thin ones don't eat like you do' or 'you've got broad shoulders' or 'I like a woman with curves' or 'you look like you can handle yourself.' I'm not a man, I'm not made of stone and your comments hurt my feelings. 
There's been so many stereotypes made of me just because I'm fat, and I'm so tired of them. I'm a good person, you're a good person and we all have bodies. They're just the shell for our souls and it's so small minded that some people can't look past that shell and see our souls are all that matter.

Whether you're a size 28 or a size 8, you're human, you love, laugh, cry and feel the same way as everyone else on planet Earth does. We're all in this thing called life together, let's stop stereotyping people and focus on helping one another. Life's tough, it can be so much easier if we don't have to defend ourselves against stupid remarks which hurt us.

We've all been there and made a snap judgement or a stereotype on someone (how many of us have said 'Potato!' when they hear an irish person? I have!) . Sometimes stereotypes are fun and inoffensive, but sometimes they hurt people's feelings and we should know better.

Just because I'm fat, doesn't mean I'm innocent either...

H x

12 comments

  1. I loved this post! Very inspirational post, and you're rocking that outfit girl!

    G x

    www.teawithgi.com

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  2. Love this! People shouldn't judge or assume :)

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  3. I love this post - it's so odd that people would assume you're unhygienic! Also people of all shapes and sizes are uncomfortable with their bodies so it's only natural that people of all shapes and sizes are comfortable with theirs too!
    Amy xx
    www.callmeamy.co.uk

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  4. I absolutely adore this post Holly. In fact I adore it so much I want to shout it from the rooftops with you. You're right when you say all of us girls need to stick together! We need to stop testing one another down because it just makes it okay for men to do the same to us as we are doing to one another. You're a beautiful, amazing and strong lady Holly. Don't ever stop writing pieces like this.

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  5. I loved reading this! :) posts like this make me want to stand up tall and shove my fist in the air with you, haha. Very empowering.

    www.lovefrommaira.co.uk

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  6. YES HOLLY! You are absolutely right, just because you happen to be a certain size, it doesn't mean that you're any less of a human or that you're deserving of hurtful comments or abuse! You smash those stereotypes, girl!

    Abbey 🏆 www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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  7. This is such an insightful post. We're all so guilty of making snap judgements and listening to stereotypes. It would be so much better if people got to know people before making judgments.

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  8. love love love this post!! xxxxxxx

    lucylovesbeautyxo.com

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  9. Like you said at the end of the post, we're all human, who cares what bloody shape or size we are!!!! On the opposite end of the spectrum I've had a really slim friend that gets asked 'if she even eats' and she hates it cause she tries to put on weight but her body doesn't want her to have a shape! I think people forget how easily words hurt.

    Loved this post :)

    Love Izzy | http://www.adoseofchatter.com

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  10. So glad that you put this post! People stereotype and judge so easily based on looks without realising anybody's struggles or how words can hurt! xx

    ♥ Jadirah Sarmad | Jasmine Catches Butterflies ʚϊɞ

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  11. I really wish people would stop stereotyping and fat-shaming needs to stop. I wish people would just concentrate on themselves! I've always been skinny but that doesn't mean I'm healthy. In fact, I do exercise and have danced all of my life but my diet is dreadful. As long as you're healthy and happy, that's all that matters!

    Sian x
    http://theenglisheverygirl.blogspot.co.uk/

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  12. I love this post, it's very inspirational. I am a size eight and I think it's time all of these stereotypes are dropped, your weight and size doesn't define you. AT ALL. I mean it's actually ridiculous for anyone to think weight has even the slightest thing to do with who we are as people? As cliché as it stands, it's the inside that counts. I honestly loved this post, well done you for standing up for yourself.

    Truly amazing.

    Chloe @ https://girllgonerogue.blogspot.co.uk/

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